“If you don’t know me by now…”

22 Oct


I’m sorry to take you “there”, or “back there” if you are my age, but the lyrics to this song popped into my head on my drive into work this morning, and I was in prayer while I drove. This song took me back immediately to the 1970’s (dating myself I know) and I was a young child spying on my parent’s “house parties”. I think that it was Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes who sang, “If you don’t know me by now…you will never, ever ever know me….ohhh ohhh ohhh!” 🙂

I know what I was praying at the time, and I know why God allowed this song to play in my mind. I also immediately knew that God wanted me to share the message here. Redundancy in prayer is a common thing; I had someone tell me that she prayed to God each night to help her to make more money, and I didn’t want to seem like I wasn’t understanding of her plight, but I asked her if she thought that God didn’t hear her the first, second or third time that she prayed the same prayer. That got a chuckle, but not much more…Personally, I know God…well…I hope that I do, and I believe that when I ask Him for something in His name BELIEVING, that he will do it (Jn. 14:14). The believing part is what makes it critical. If you ask Him anything, but have even a inch of doubt, you will cancel the request. It’s also important to note that being in God’s will is important. I don’t think that there is a person who reads this blog that doesn’t want to be wealthy. Some of us may even feel that they deserve to be wealthy. However, if it is not in God’s will for you, guess what? Join the crowd.

Please don’t misconstrue what I’m saying, because with the skewered prosperity gospel that is so prevalent today this message needs to be heard. The prosperity doctrine is straight from the devil; it is based upon a principle that everyone who follows it deserves wealth, and it’s motto is the taken out of context scripture, “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou would prosper and be in health even as thy soul prospers (3 Jn. 1:2)”. Of course God wants His people to prosper, but prosperity comes in more forms than monetarily. You actually have to KNOW God to understand what He is saying to His people. Jesus did not go to the cross for us so that we can be rich! God wants a relationship with us, we can be rich in him.

At this point I’m sure many may think that “she’s crazy”, and perhaps that I’m not being realistic, but truly knowing God shows me that whatever my NEEDS are, that God is faithful to supply them. My wants, on the other hand, may go unfulfilled forever. Recently my adult son kept insisting to me that “Mom I NEED a second job….I really do. I need it”, and I would shake my head and tell him…”No, you WANT a second job. God knows what you need. You NEED patience, wait on God”. Lo and behold, not too long ago he was blessed with the job that God wanted him to have and he is happy today. This is a prime example of how the people of God end up falling into spiritual ditches; their “needs” supersede what God actually wants for their lives, and their will supersedes His will. Then calamity strikes and who gets the blame? God does.

If you don’t know Him by now….you may never ever ever know Him, ohhh ohhh ohhh.

“Well sister pastor’s wife, I was reading Psalms 37 and it said that if I delight myself in the Lord that He will give me the desires of my heart. So there!”

Yeah. I read that too. I could be wrong but the way that I read it was that when I am happy in the Lord, that my desires will also be His for me. Meaning that whatever God has for me will be enough and I will be satiated. If your heart is not satisfied in what God has done for you or has given to you, then maybe you need a heart transplant…one that is after His own heart. I know that it seems like I’m preaching to the choir here, but with banal and spiritually insensitive shows like the “Preachers” and “Preachers daughter” and idiotic films being released like “I’m in love with a church girl” (Huh??!!??) I think that the truth of the Word needs to be spread, hearts need to be changed and people need to get back to knowing who God is…because it seems like many, many have fallen away.


Satan’s lies are wooing away God’s people. Turn back. Draw near to Him and he will draw near to you.

Thanks for reading and God bless you!



Posted by on October 22, 2013 in Spiritual Walk, Uncategorized


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3 responses to ““If you don’t know me by now…”

  1. BornAgainJerry

    October 24, 2013 at 11:50 AM

    Great talking points Nita, you certainly displayed keen insight and practical wisdom here; Its been my observation that until recently ‘Prayer’ was becoming a dying discipline within the church, what I mean by that is until the prosperity gospel gained a foothold few people actually prayed, they’re now motivated to pray not for the sake of spiritual communion with our heavenly Father, but for “stuff” or material gain…many have been seduced into the
    “Moneyyyy….Cometh To Me Now!” mantra, calling it prayer, as if God is obligated to fulfill the selfish desires of people

    (The LORD our God is God 24/7….because He neither slumbers nor sleeps, he hears all prayer for He fills heaven & earth, when it is day over here its night over there, and his people are praying there also…)

    Although God hears all our prayers, by his sovereign will He’s under no obligation to do so
    the fact “You desire and do not have. You murder and do not obtain, you fight & war.
    Yet you do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive (Why) because you ask for the wrong reason, that you may spend it on your own pleasure” James 4:2-3

    (Paul prayed three times for his “thorn in the flesh” to be removed, but was answered
    “My grace is sufficient for you”) 2Cor 12:8-9

    Sis, you are absolutely correct “There’s not a person (including myself) that doesn’t want to be wealthy” but God knows us better than we know ourselves (For the very hairs on our head are numbered) We all understand we must work for money to survive in this world
    “For these things the gentiles worry, ‘what shall we eat, drink and clothe ourselves with?’
    For God is well aware we need these things” Matt 6:32

    But wisdom says “Give me neither poverty nor riches, feed me with the food allotted to me
    Lest, when I am full and deny You, and say ‘Who is the LORD?’ or least I be poor and steal
    and profane the name of my God” Proverbs 30:8-9

    As you said, and I agree, God wants his people to prosper, to be successful is a blessing, but not at the expense of forsaking Him, remembering that in the providence of God –
    “The rich and the poor have this in common, the LORD is the maker of them all”
    Proverbs 22:2

    I have certainly been blessed by your words, God no doubt gave you “If you don’t know me by now..” for this is the fruit of your labor! God is with you, Sis!

    I hope others will read and take heed (and to quote another Harold Melvin & Blue Notes)

  2. iampastorswife

    October 25, 2013 at 8:18 PM

    Bro. Jerry, thank you again for the assist! I see from that stats that this message had many readers but no one wants to respond; I definitely understand. Knowing God, and I mean truly knowing Him, gives you a keen discernment when it comes to things of the flesh. A hard part of prayer is “according to HIS will” because most of us have the expectation of “our will” being done and when it doesn’t happen “our” way, then we will find a way to make it happen. I’m only guessing here, but perhaps many preachers started out following God’s will for their ministry, but when things, people and “prayers” didn’t go or happen fast enough….well, God’s will turned into “My will be done” and we have what we have in churches now.

    I met another EX-pastor today who left the pulpit because of the desecration of ministry and disrespect of the title of “pastor”. It’s shameful because talking to this brother, I know that he had a voice that could reach young people for Christ, but in his words; “I’m just not there anymore”. Please pray for God’s people and for a revival of the True Church of God. Thanks Bro. Jerry once again for being a faithful friend, reader and brother in the Lord.


    • BornAgainJerry

      October 29, 2013 at 11:50 AM

      Amen Sis! being a true pastor dedicated to the LORD today (as it has always been) is hard work, it is a hazardous occupation that comes with awesome responsibility, because the one that instructs Gods people will face a stricter judgment (James 3:1)
      It was once revered as a sacred & solemn calling on ones life, but nowadays, its just another way to get paid!

      A brief look at the apostle Paul’s life demonstrates this; his 2nd epistle to the Corinthians was a personal defense of his apostleship & integrity as a pastor of the church he planted and ministered to for 1 1/2 years against the “super anointed” (2Cor 11:5) of his day.
      (Some things never change)

      He was being disrespected by infiltrators that tried to turn the Corinthian assembly against him by saying “His letters are weighty & powerful, and his bodily presence is weak and the way he speaks is contemptible” (Paul’s bark is worst than his bite) but Paul countered, ‘his bite was as bad as his bark-!’
      “Let such persons consider this, that what we are in word by letters when we are absent, such we will be when we are present!” (2Cor 10:10-11)

      Near the end of his earthly life after all that he had done, Paul was abandoned “For even Demas, his co-worker had forsaken him because he loved this present world” but the LORD was merciful to him spending his remaining time with Luke, the beloved physician & John- Mark both NT gospel writers and Timothy ‘his son in the faith’ – for God is good!

      I will keep this Ex-pastor in prayer, that God will strengthen and encourage his heart, to fight the good fight, to finish the race and to keep the faith-!


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