Hey, it’s Sunday!!!
I remember back in the day when my oldest two children were just babies, the church that I attended had a Sunday morning prayer service at 8:30 am, Sunday School at 9:30 am, and morning worship at 11:00 am. Morning worship would usually end at about 2:30 pm, and we would have to be back for Sunday evening service at 7:00 pm and if we were lucky we would be out by 10:30 pm. That was our Sunday! We also had Tuesday night “bible study”, which usually ended up being another service and it started at 7:30 pm and went until finished, usually close to 11:00 pm. We had Thursday night choir rehearsal, and Friday evening service at 7:30 pm until “close” lol. If you’re counting you know that between work and church that never left much free time in the week for family stuff. Our church usually required us to help out on Saturdays with cleaning, or cooking for some event or working the food bank, and other activities, which we never minded because we did all things as unto the Lord, but in hindsight we realize that our pastor took advantage of our naivete’ and “newness” in Christ and eagerness to serve God.
Fast forward almost 15 years and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that Jesus would not want us to neglect our family. Jesus instructs the husband to love his wife as Jesus loves the church; since we are the church and we KNOW how much Jesus loves us, that puts a whole new meaning on the husband loving his wife. We need to make sure that God’s business of soul-saving is taken care of, be disciples at all times and even in that, take care of your family. What do I mean by “taking care of”? Well, spend quality time with your children, not just the church family…the family that God gave you. Don’t neglect your children so that they end up resenting the church, thus God. Do fun things with them, even if it’s sitting around the family table once or twice a week; go out for ice cream, walk around the mall or the lake. Just sit down and talk to them and ask them how their week has been. Avoid close-ended questions like, “how was your day”, they will just respond with “fine”, one and day. Really talk to them like this, “so, tell me about your day”, or tell them an anecdote about yours and see if they follow up.
Husband!!! Make time for him. Your relationship should not always be centered around those kids. Take a walk with him. Ask him about how he feels his sermons went, ask him about his work week, BUT do not cut him off mid-sentence to tell him how much worse yours was lol. Let the man talk! Our husbands spend so much time working at work AND at church that they need an outlet. You’d better become one unless some she-wolf tries to replace you. Hold his hand, put your arm around him. Let the man know that you love and appreciate him. If you must reject the physicality aspect, do it with love and compassion explaining why, don’t just say, “no, leave me alone” or “not tonight I have a headache”. If that is the case, substitute something else, give him a back rub, massage his tired muscles or make his favorite dessert. Give the man something! He is your husband and you are his wife. Act like it sister!
Take care of your family and they will take care of you, in Jesus’ name!