The big “D”. That thing that happens to “other people” and “other families”. Divorce, an affront to God’s greatest creation. More and more lately I have been hearing from people who are considering divorce, and to be honest, I have even mentioned it myself a time or two when things got “rough”. Consider that last sentence for a moment. If you are a regular reader of my blog you will be familiar with the “rough times” that my husband and I have experienced as a couple, as a family and as parents. Let me tell you that the little trials which have prompted the “D” word lately are NOTHING when compared to what we have experienced together in the past. This is why I know that the over-abundance of divorce talk on all fronts is designed by satan for such a time as this.
Divorce Court, that popular “dramatized reality show”, actually premiered in its first incarnation in the 1950s, and then reappeared in 1985. Its 1957 run lasted for 12 years and when it came back in 1985 it has lasted until now. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out why a show that promotes, glamorizes and glosses over the devastating effects of divorce is the longest running reality series on television. Programming again. I don’t watch a whole lot of television but I do enough reading to know that network broadcasters have been huge proponents of the spirit of divorce, and yes I call it a spirit, which I will explain later. In 2011 networks produced EIGHT divorced themed shows for one season; Happily Divorced, Free Agents, Ex Men, Other People’s Kids, just to name a few. Not to mention that any public figure(s) who decide to divorce become instant news. Let’s face it, divorce is popular just as homosexuality is popular – do you get the connection?
In his ongoing mission to destroy God’s creation, family, satan has set in motion many ways of doing just that. He also has his minions ready to offer us many excuses for the easy out of divorce:
- Financial mismanagement
- Lack of equality
- Inability to get along
- Unrealistic expectations
And again, these all, except for abuse and infidelity, excuses. In our “vows” we state, “for better or for worse”, so how come at the first sign of financial strain we are ready to bail on our spouse? The moment the electric gets turned off we say, “Oh I ain’t get married to be sitting up in the dark homeboy. I can do bad all by myself”, and other pathetic quotes taken from Madea ( <—- which is a whole ‘nother blog post in itself). Let me help you out my dear brothers and sisters because I have been where you’re at, or possibly where you are heading; I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that marriage is not easy. I know that some days with that person you married will be hard to get through, I understand the animosity that might build up until you feel you will explode. I’ve felt the anger, the resentment, the distastefulness, and every other foul spirit that satan can ply you with so that your heart is turned from the person God bound you to. I KNOW! I also know this, emotions and feelings are deceitful. They are meant to supersede the things of God; this is why God tells us to keep our minds stayed on HIM, that is where perfect peace comes from. Eve’s issue in the garden is that she allowed satan to get into her mind and have her forget the mandate that God had given she and Adam. In like manner as wives and husbands we also forget.
Malachi 2:15-16, And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away;”
The evil Pharisees of Jesus’ time were just as these network televisions shows are today, repeatedly tempting us into a sinful act that God does not endorse nor condone:
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. - Matt. 19:3-6.
To tempt him even further they brought up Moses:
They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Of course these scriptures are not popular because they give no leeway for our selfish desires (yes selfish, read the blog title again) to walk away from a “constricting” marriage where bills are paid late, or not enough attention is paid to one person or the other or because of hurt feelings. No, God knew what He was doing when he created marriage, but we would rather fall into the trap of the enemy by playing the pawn in his chess game of Operation Destroy the Traditional Family. Yes, satan’s new normal is saturating the airwaves and the news media as the homosexual agenda advances, and the traditional family is deteriorating. It is a systemic problem that the Christian coalition is blindly falling into because of unwise counsel or the anti-Christ spirit. Never have I seen so many family men or women suddenly discover that they are “gay”, and leave their children and spouses to explore their new lifestyle. The church pastor is allowed to divorce his wife and still continue to lead the church, and even marry a new “first lady”. This is the enemy folks and it’s a smokescreen.
PROVERBS 3:5-6 IS CLEAR:
Our God is a God of restoration. He is a God of order. He is a God of resolution. Whatever issues there are in your marriage, God’s will for us is that we remain in it, if possible. God’s mandate was for man to love his wife like Christ loved the church, and of course Jesus gave His life for the church so what more can we do for our marriage?
Please friends, take it from one who has been there…don’t speak doom into your marriage, speak life into it and God can resurrect it no matter what state it is in. God bless you!
(p.s. Yes, I still have a husband, lol, but not for my lack of being a ‘shrew’, if you will. Thank God for mercy!)
For more info on grounds for divorce reference: The Grounds